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How to Live a Happy Life | 12 Insightful Tips
Happiness is something we all desire (and deserve) but sometimes it feels as though it’s out of reach. The truth about happiness is, it isn’t usually something that just falls in your lap, it’s a journey that requires time, life adjustments and effort. I can’t pretend to be a perfect, all knowing being with the secret to 100% happiness, but I CAN share with you the twelve tips that have helped me on my own personal journey to happiness.
12 Tips for Living a Happier Life
- Discover Your True Self
- Cut Out Toxic People
- Stop Caring What Other People Think
- Stop Seeing Others as Competition
- Make Adequate “Me Time”
- Chase Your Dreams
- Find the Silver Linings
- Spread Love, Not Hate
- Appreciate the Little Things
- Let Go of What You Can’t Control
- Keep Life Simple
- Surround Yourself with People Who Inspire You
Being in touch with yourself and who you are on the inside is one of the most important things you can do in life. It’s easy to lose yourself in the daily grind, especially those who have insanely busy schedules. Take the time to do some deep soul searching and truly get to know yourself. What makes you tick? What makes you feel alive? What makes you sad? Think of it as laying down the foundation for a house, it’s a necessary first step in building a happy, structured and fulfilling life.
If there is someone in your life that is constantly bringing you down, either with their words or actions, it’s time to cut your losses and let them go. Life is too short to consume yourself with someone else’s misery and negativity. Think of it as a boat anchor, you cannot move forward if something is tying you down. It’s OK to love and care about people from a distance.
Being yourself takes courage, but it’s absolutely necessary for a happy life. Don’t let other’s thoughts about you or your lifestyle determine your choices nor keep you from doing whatever makes your heart happy. None of us are perfect nor have it all figured out, even if it appears so on the outside, so it’s absolutely pointless to constantly look to others for their approval. Just do you and pay no mind to what people might think or say. It’s YOUR life to live and you only get one.
Life is not a competition, it’s a beautiful ride filled with ups and downs that all of us experience differently. When we constantly compare ourselves to someone else and worry about who’s better, who’s prettier, who has this and that, etc., we miss out on the opportunity to make genuine & lasting friendships and set ourselves up for misery. Simply put, life isn’t fair. Some people may have certain advantages or disadvantages, but there’s nothing we can do to change that. Don’t waste your precious time focusing on what someone else is doing or where they’re at in life, but rather stay laser focused on your own goals and personal growth, and the hard work will pay off.
Another key item in living a more happy life is having adequate time to yourself to reflect and do what makes you happy, without being bothered by others. Take a walk somewhere beautiful, read a book, write in a journal, watch your favorite show, etc. Having quality “me time” will make you feel rejuvenated, happier and balanced.
All of us have a dream, something spectacular we want to accomplish in life. The beauty of life is that dreams do come true, they usually just take a lot of hard work. If you’re passionate about something, no matter how unrealistic it may seem, put every ounce of your soul in to it and I promise the pay off will be amazing. It may not happen fast, but chipping away at it each and every day will most definitely get you closer to turning that dream in to reality. Life is way too short to not do whatever sets your soul on fire.
Bad things happen to us all, it’s life. These not so ideal life events can sometimes yield the most insight and growth in life, if we look at them in a different perspective. Instead of dwelling on the negative, look at how that event changed you or made you stronger. Using this train of thought will help you turn negative events into something more meaningful that you can take something positive and away from.
As humans we tend to be pretty tough on one another. We pass judgement on someone within seconds of meeting them, or by things we’ve heard, and treat people differently based on these judgements. We sometimes forget that every single one of us is imperfect and going through our own set of struggles. When you try to push your judgements aside, and view the other person as an equal it becomes a little bit easier to treat them nicely. Society is filled with so much hate, racism, bullying, etc. that most of us don’t feel great about ourselves, not matter how hard we try to hide it. A kind word or gesture can go a long, long way. Not to mention, it feels damn good knowing you brightened someone’s day!
Society teaches us to constantly seek the big and flashy things in life, leaving us easily swindled in to a “keeping up with the Joneses” mentality. Because of this we often times overlook the simple pleasures in life. If you slow down and take the time to appreciate each little blessing and pleasure (like that perfect brownie you just ate), life will seem much more fulfilling.
As a control freak and perfectionist, letting go is really hard for me, but I can’t even begin to tell you the freedom and happiness and I found when I learned to simply let go of things that are not in my control. It feels as though a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders and like I can breathe once again. There’s absolutely no point in stressing over things that you can’t change, you just have to let it go and move on.
Life can get complicated rather quickly. These complications can lead to anxiety and stress, none of which we need added to our already full plate. The best way to alleviate this is to stop it at the source, and live your life as simply as possible. You don’t always have to to have the best of the best, the newest or the most. Keep what you need, a few things you don’t need (but love) and purge the rest. Having less clutter and less things to pick up is an instant mood booster.
The company we keep certainly says a lot about ourselves. It’s important to choose the right people to be around, as we take cues from our friends and use them to make life choices. Make sure the people you choose to be around are people who understand you, positively impact you and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. People who inspire us will push us to work on our goals, and in general, make it easier to live a more happy & satisfying life.
That’s a wrap, babes! I sincerely hope this list helps you on your own journey to happiness! If you have any other great tips on how to be more happy I’d love to hear them! Please remember, no matter who you are or what you’ve done in life, every single one of us deserves happiness. That includes you, my dear!
Until next time, Stay Beautiful, Inside & Out!